Dealing with the Emotional Crisis of Divorce
As a Clinical Hypnotherapist & Psychotherapist I have seen many people going through the emotional rollercoaster of divorce. Clients often go through phases of feeling anger, guilt, a sense of failure and even grief. Beyond is the hope of eventually moving on to feelings of relief, freedom and happiness but for too many people these emotional states stay as just hopes, not reality.
In my private practice in Guildford (Surrey Psychotherapy) we focus on helping clients through this challenging transition, to manage the emotional rollercoaster and eventually to try and bring the emotional hopes to a reality. Examples of specifics we focus on include;
- Changing your Mind Set - this involves a change in perceptions to move to more positive view, no matter what you are going through. I stand by the belief that it is not events that matter but how you interpret them and what you do about them that matters.
- Learning how to understand and use your emotions - what I always say to my clients is; "If you want to make your life really work, you must make your emotions work for you". Emotions are there for a reason, even the ones you think are negative and maybe trying to deny or avoid. They are there as a call to action!
- Bringing consciousness to your life - the worst enemy of anxiety, depression and anger is consciousness. We show how to practice self-compassion and bring empathy and kindness to yourself and to any situation.
- Reconnecting with your "BluePrint"- this can be seen as putting yourself back together again. For example by seeing old friends, going out, exercising, doing new activities, bringing back old hobbies you enjoyed, finding new interest and passions in your life. The emphasis is on establishing this transition as a new start rather than an end.
- Getting Sleep – stress often leads to a lack of sleep. Tiredness often leads sufferers feeling burnout and a need for escapism and commonly to the use of self-medication through alcohol, drugs, overeating and sugar addiction. We show how to use both Hypnotherapy and Meditation techniques to provide for a better quality of sleep.
- Setting New Goals – the focus here is on living purposefully and is connected with these questions: what is it you would like out of life? What do think you deserve? How are you going to achieve it? What makes you happy?
At the worst point in the emotional crisis we can be gripped by feelings of anxiety, fear, anger, grief, guilt, and shame. Unfortunately, that is when most people are moved to make the first call to a divorce lawyer. As a result, people can also end up making short-sighted decisions based on emotional reactions that do not take into account anyone's long-term best interest.
To address this challenge Surrey Psychotherapy has teamed up with Guildford based CP Law Associates to provide professional help in strengthening mental health during the and after the trauma of divorce.
Teba Martin from Surrey Psychotherapy www.surrey-psychotherapy.com
Health Charge for Temporary Migrants to Double
The government plans to double the immigration health surcharge paid by temporary migrants to the UK.
The surcharge will rise from £200 to £400 per year. The discounted rate for students and those on the Youth Mobility Scheme will increase from £150 to £300.
The annual charge is paid by people from outside the European Economic Area (EEA) who are seeking to live in the UK for 6 months or more to work, study or join family.
The Department of Health and Social Care (DHSC) estimates that the NHS spends £470 on average per person per year on treating surcharge payers. Projections suggest that the increased charges may provide around £220m extra every year, with this money going to NHS services.
Do you have to pay the Immigration Health Surcharge?
For visa applications made outside the UK, you have to pay if you:
- are a national of a country outside the European Economic Area
- are applying for a visa to work, study or join your family in the UK for more than 6 months (but you’re not applying to permanently remain in the UK)
- have applied and paid your visa fee on or after 6 April 2015
For immigration applications made within the UK, you have to pay if you:
- are a national of a country outside the EEA
- are making an immigration application for any length of time (but you are not applying to permanently remain in the UK)
- have applied and paid your application fee on or after 6 April 2015
MOJ Family Form Amendments
The Ministry of Justice has announced that Form FM1, Form A, Form A1, Form B and Form C100 will be amended with effect from 8 January 2018.
The amended family forms are: Form FM1 (Family Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM)), Form A (Notice of [intention to proceed with] an application for a financial order), Form A1 (Notice of [intention to proceed with] an application for a financial remedy (other than a financial order)), Form B (Notice of an application to consider the financial position of the Respondent after the divorce/dissolution), and Form C100 (Application under s 8 of the Children Act 1989 for a child arrangements, prohibited steps, specific issue order or to vary or discharge or ask permission to make a s 8 order).
The amendments reflect changes to the evidence requirements regarding domestic abuse. All completed applications using the old forms received after 12 January 2018 will be returned to the applicant.